We’ve all heard the expression “I’m completely buried with work.” Of course, it’s usually meant figuratively. But there was this one time when I got to witness the literal application of this old adage.
As a teenager my younger brother Nicholas and I used to do a lot of farm work for our neighbours. Mostly things like picking stones or doing hay.
And occasionally we’d get called on to do other odd jobs like herding up sheep or even helping a farmer deliver a calf.
We were only making 5 bucks an hour and even that was tough to get sometimes. I remember one old farmer being completely outraged at how much our labour cost, insisting that when he was our age they used to get “a bucket of green apples” for a day’s work and they’d be lucky to get that… Cash will be fine, sir.
One hot summer day, Nicholas and I were doing hay for a local farmer. To protect his identity, we’ll just call him Joe. We were starting to fill a new hayloft and for all y’all city folk out there, I’ll explain how that works.
After you cut your field the rows of hay are left out to dry. And then (after negotiating how many green apples your hired hands will cost) the hay is bundled up using a baler and loaded onto the wagon.
When the wagon is full it’s driven back to the barn and unloaded onto the elevator – essentially a large, inclined conveyor belt – which takes the hay bales up to the hayloft. The bales would drop off the elevator where Nicholas and I would work with Joe to grab the bales and stack them neatly to create the hay mow.
Now, when starting out a new hay mow, the bales would often be dropping from a considerable height. With these things weighing around 40 pounds each, you had to be careful not to be clobbered by an incoming hay bale as you grabbed for another one. To help prevent this, the people unloading the wagon outside would normally space the bales out on the elevator.
Joe was familiar with this risk. “Let’s watch out for each other, boys,” he reminded us. We mumbled something in response. The work started at a manageable pace, but before long we noticed that the speed at which the bales were dropping off the elevator was rapidly increasing.
And then, as Joe reached down to grab a hay bale, Nicholas and I watched in inept silence as another bale plummeted from the elevator.
It slammed into the back of Joe’s head, mashing his face into the ground. For a moment, he was quite literally buried in work.
Staggering to his feet, the stunned Joe, who probably had a severe concussion at this point, turned to us and said, “THAT’S WHY WE LOOK OUT FOR EACH OTHER!”
We mumbled some sort of sheepish apology and got back to work.
MORAL OF THE STORY
Life can sometimes feel like Joe’s barn: frantically trying to keep up with a seemingly endless and increasingly fast-paced barrage of work and activity. We scramble to do the best we can and fear that if we stop to take a breather the pile of hay bales is just going to get bigger and bigger.
And like the blow to the back of Joe’s head, there are consequences to working and living that way.
It affects the quality of our work
As the speed of the hay bales increased in Joe’s barn, the sloppier our mows became. Similarly, trying to keep up with a dizzying pace at work is a sure-fire recipe for half-assery. We may be getting a million things done, but it’s a million things done mediocrely.
I know for me, I tend to be more productive, creative and better able to problem-solve when I’m in a positive frame of mind, well-rested and not stressed to the max with bales of hay crashing around me.
It affects our health
Perhaps not in the same direct way as it affected Farmer Joe’s health (a hay bale to the head isn’t exactly a conventional risk). More common effects include things like:
- Losing sleep
- Eating poorly because you don’t have time to prepare healthy meals
- Not having time to exercise
- High blood pressure
- Strain on the heart
- Nervous breakdowns
- And the list goes on.
It affects our relationships
An imbalanced life often means we don’t get to spend much time with our family and friends. The quality of what little time we do get to spend with our loved ones is often diminished, either because we’re so exhausted from our jobs or because our minds are preoccupied with work.
And when we need an outlet for all our pent up stress and anger, it’s usually the people closest to us who get the brunt of it. Although to be fair, Nicholas and I certainly deserved to be yelled at after Farmer Joe got smoked in the head.
It affects our overall happiness
Trust me: Farmer Joe was very unhappy after the blow to his head. When we’re buried in work, it tends to be our hobbies and pastimes that are the first things we sacrifice. We also don’t have time for things like inner reflection, personal growth or to pursue our passions or creative interests.
Non-Work Hay Bales
The hay bales of our job aren’t the only usurpers of time and energy that are stymying our attempts at greater life balance. How we spend the rest of our time plays into it as well. It could be that you’re:
- Watching too much TV/spending too much time online
- Commuting long distances because you chose to live far from work
- Taking on too many extracurricular activities
- Spending money on things you really don’t need (which in turn may make it necessary for you to work such long hours at a job you don’t particularly enjoy).
Making room for the things that matter most in life is a journey and no two paths are alike. What works for me may not be your cup of tea or even possible given your personal situation. But I do believe that no matter who you are or what your situation, there is something you can do to achieve greater life balance.
The first step is simply recognizing the fact that there are too many hay bales on your elevator. The second step is to make the decision to address the problem. Because god knows you can’t rely on muppets like Nicholas or I to save you from an incoming blow to the back of the head.
Check out the links below for some resources on how to find greater life balance and how a simple living solution may be right for you. And feel free to share your own advice and tips on life balance in the comment section below!
- My two books, “Balancing Priorities and Prioritizing Balance” and “Simple(ton) Living: Lessons in balance from life’s absurd moments” focus heavily on the topic of life balance. Click here to learn more about them.
- Here are some other articles I’ve written about the subject here on JMI:
- How to Make a Work-Life Balance Pie Chart
- Don’t Forget Option B
- Nigel Marsh on how to make work-life balance work
- Freeing Up Time and Money: Minor and major changes
- Finding Balance By Reducing First
- Simplify to Clarify: Making room for the quiet spaces
- Living Light to Live Free
- Seeing the Big Picture
- 10 Ways to Practice Slowing Down
- Learning How to Say No
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Funny stories. Good advice. Check out my books, “Simple(ton) Living: Lessons in balance from life’s absurd moments.” and “Balancing Priorities and Prioritizing Balance”. Click here to learn more and to purchase a copy.